Is it too late for New Year’s resolutions? I hope not. If you read my last post ‘Twelve Days of Christmas …in hospital’ you’ll know I have a pretty good excuse. Also by writing these in mid January free from a New Year’s eve hangover and the mindless optimism of the first few days of a year, maybe they’ll be more successful than all my previous resolutions. So…
1, Walking.
For the last 5 years I’ve barely been able to walk, only managing a few metres at a time. So I use a wheelchair to get around, although I can walk a bit when I really need to (see Lou and Andy from Little Britain). What stops me walking more is chronic pain from numerous old injuries in my legs that have never fully healed, which is very common with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. Inactivity has added to the problem as its led to further muscle, tendon and ligament atrophy, which will make progress even harder to achieve. I’ve already tried numerous walking and gradual strengthening programmes but without any lasting benefit.
However my nutritional intake has been much better since I’ve been fed by parenteral nutrition which may help, and for some reason a new year brings new hope and motivation. So I’m going to have another try, or twenty. I’ve got some advice and exercises from my physio. Progress won’t happen quickly, but being able to walk a few hundred yards a day (or every other day) would improve my life a lot. So it’s well worth a huge amount of effort.
2, Gain weight.
In June 2013, after gradually falling for a couple of years, my weight reached 7 stone and 1 pound (45.1 kgs). I’m 6 foot 1 inch tall so that’s uncomfortably, unhealthily and painfully thin. Plus I looked terrible. Thankfully, I then started being fed by parenteral nutrition and over the next 14 months I gained over 3 stone (20 kgs), which was fantastic and frankly life saving. However in the last few months, due to problems peg feeding and time spent in hospital I’ve lost nearly a stone, which has been very frustrating. Plus I’ve moved from a 30 inch waist, to 32, then 34, then back to 32 inch again in 18 months. So my wardrobe is crammed full of trousers.
This should be easily resolved as the calorie content of my parenteral nutrition bags is being increased soon, but we’ll see I guess. I’d like to weigh between 10 and 10.5 stone again (34 inch waist!) That’s still underweight for my height, but I have less muscle mass than your average sparrow these days, so it’s probably about right.
3, Stay out of hospital.
I started this year in hospital with an infection, which was a big reminder how much I hate the places. What was particularly irritating was the infection may have been my own fault as I let myself get dehydrated, (cue a big Homer Simpson style ‘Doh!’)
I’m extremely careful (bordering on paranoid) when I set up my feeding systems, keeping everything sterile. But maybe I need to be more responsible about my hydration levels. If I manage that every day and maintain very good hygiene, hopefully I’ll stay out of hospital for the rest of this year.
4, Have more fun.
That sounds simple, right? Hmm… Before I fell ill and was diagnosed with EDS I used to have tons of fun, without even trying much. But my body is very different now. I use a wheelchair due to joint pain, I can’t eat food and spend up to 20 hours a day attached to feeding pumps by tubes. So having fun has become rather more of a struggle.
But I’m stronger than I was a year ago and recently I haven’t needed to peg feed for as long each day. Joint pain often restricts me, but hopefully in the next year I’ll be able to see friends and my nieces more often and maybe have a few more parties and interesting trips out. I might even have that BBQ I’ve been promising for a decade.
There you go, some simple but challenging resolutions for me. With EDS, things rarely go to plan, but with some effort and luck in 12 months time I’ll be walking further each day, I’ll be a bit fatter, with a nice big smile on my face.
A Reluctant Contortionist
January 19, 2015 @
10:06 am
Thank you. – The food will be poor, probably burnt, with some wasps flying round it …so a typical English BBQ way below Aussie standards, sorry. Alternatively I could treat you to a cup of odourless, tasteless enteral feed?! 🙂
Great, positive stuff, and very good to read. Seriously.
And the punctuation is improving.
We’re very similar, you know, thee and me. I also plan, for 2015, to stay out of hospitals, be hydrated, and get out more. By popular demand, naturally. Oh, and finish the book, write another hundred songs, and rock n roll…………..
I pledge thee my unwavering support.
A Reluctant Contortionist
January 20, 2015 @
2:14 pm
Thank you for your message, and support. – You’re right we are relatively similar (see what I did there?) Apart from your very poor taste in football teams of course, and I don’t stay hydrated with wine…
Good luck with the book, songs, rocking and rolling etc.
Please note, my grammar is checked by a former English teacher. I’m assured it’s fine, better than yours judging by your comment. (‘Seriously.’ is not a sentence. Also you can’t start a sentence with ‘And’!)
If you need any more tips just ask. Regards.
A Reluctant Contortionist
January 24, 2015 @
1:10 pm
Hi Rhiannon,
Thank you. Walking is going to be the hardest challenge. My physio has a plan thankfully. I’ll start by walking once every 4 days, then try to build up the distance and frequency. At the moment I’m doing strengthening and stretching exercises to prepare. – I’m quite excited about it. It would be amazing to walk regularly again, even short distances.
Love Cousin Ceri (and a kiss right back for Dani X)
Hi Ceri, So good to feel that Teasdale humour and dogged determination shining through again after such a quiet time on your blog over the festive season!! I might tell you that you were in my and the Reynaud gang’s thoughts all over Christmas & New Year, and in between visits to Manchester to see Mark and family and skypes to LA loved ones etc., I’d call up your site hoping to see some sign of activity. So glad you’re back, and good luck with all your excercise plans – big (gentle) hugs. PS Don’t like Facebook, Twitter, Tweet whatever….but for you I’ve ‘blogged’ for the first time (:-)….never too old to learn….Liz x and love to all your super family x
A Reluctant Contortionist
January 30, 2015 @
1:21 pm
Hi Liz,
Lovely to hear from you, and thank you very much for blogging for the first time. It’s basically the same as sending me an email, except anyone in the world can read it! Thanks too for thinking of me over Christmas, but it wasn’t a serious infection. I was only in hospital because I have a Hickman line, so it was a lot of fuss about not much really. I was at home on Christmas day thankfully and we had a fab time, the girls making it special as they always do.
Nice to hear you saw Mark and family over Christmas. Photos of his gorgeous little ones come up on Facebook sometimes. Eddie is the spitting image of Mark and Mike at the same age, even the golden curls! I can’t imagine what Christmas in LA is like. Turkey burgers on the beach maybe?! I’ll ask Mike some time. Love to all Reynauds, Ceri x
Hi Ceri, My friend Mark S tweeted about your blog, and I had to leave you a note, your writing has a really honest and engaging tone. And I remember what Christmas in hospital was like (backstory: ulcerative colitis, total colectomy). I wish you all the best in the world with your New Year Resolutions, and look forward to reading more, best Lisa
A Reluctant Contortionist
February 2, 2015 @
8:02 pm
Hi Lisa,
Thank you for your kind comment. I’ve met a number of people with ulcerative colitis during my hospital stays. It’s a very difficult condition. I really hope your surgery was successful.
I was in school with Mark S and also a play once, ‘Forty Years On’ by Alan Bennett. Mark was brilliant, the play …less so!
Thanks for following the blog. Best wishes, Ceri.
Paul
January 18, 2015 @ 5:41 pm
I’m just wondering how good the food will be at BBQ will be from someone who hasn’t eaten for a few years… Great post!
A Reluctant Contortionist
January 19, 2015 @ 10:06 am
Thank you. – The food will be poor, probably burnt, with some wasps flying round it …so a typical English BBQ way below Aussie standards, sorry. Alternatively I could treat you to a cup of odourless, tasteless enteral feed?! 🙂
David Teasdale
January 18, 2015 @ 8:14 pm
Great, positive stuff, and very good to read. Seriously.
And the punctuation is improving.
We’re very similar, you know, thee and me. I also plan, for 2015, to stay out of hospitals, be hydrated, and get out more. By popular demand, naturally. Oh, and finish the book, write another hundred songs, and rock n roll…………..
I pledge thee my unwavering support.
A Reluctant Contortionist
January 20, 2015 @ 2:14 pm
Thank you for your message, and support. – You’re right we are relatively similar (see what I did there?) Apart from your very poor taste in football teams of course, and I don’t stay hydrated with wine…
Good luck with the book, songs, rocking and rolling etc.
Please note, my grammar is checked by a former English teacher. I’m assured it’s fine, better than yours judging by your comment. (‘Seriously.’ is not a sentence. Also you can’t start a sentence with ‘And’!)
If you need any more tips just ask. Regards.
Rhiannon
January 22, 2015 @ 10:55 pm
Hi Ceri,
I enjoyed this entry very much. What a lovely motivated outlook for the year.
Wishing you all the best with your resolutions and sending lots of love from Wales (and a kiss from Dani) xxxx
A Reluctant Contortionist
January 24, 2015 @ 1:10 pm
Hi Rhiannon,
Thank you. Walking is going to be the hardest challenge. My physio has a plan thankfully. I’ll start by walking once every 4 days, then try to build up the distance and frequency. At the moment I’m doing strengthening and stretching exercises to prepare. – I’m quite excited about it. It would be amazing to walk regularly again, even short distances.
Love Cousin Ceri (and a kiss right back for Dani X)
Liz Reynaud
January 28, 2015 @ 8:22 pm
Hi Ceri, So good to feel that Teasdale humour and dogged determination shining through again after such a quiet time on your blog over the festive season!! I might tell you that you were in my and the Reynaud gang’s thoughts all over Christmas & New Year, and in between visits to Manchester to see Mark and family and skypes to LA loved ones etc., I’d call up your site hoping to see some sign of activity. So glad you’re back, and good luck with all your excercise plans – big (gentle) hugs. PS Don’t like Facebook, Twitter, Tweet whatever….but for you I’ve ‘blogged’ for the first time (:-)….never too old to learn….Liz x and love to all your super family x
A Reluctant Contortionist
January 30, 2015 @ 1:21 pm
Hi Liz,
Lovely to hear from you, and thank you very much for blogging for the first time. It’s basically the same as sending me an email, except anyone in the world can read it! Thanks too for thinking of me over Christmas, but it wasn’t a serious infection. I was only in hospital because I have a Hickman line, so it was a lot of fuss about not much really. I was at home on Christmas day thankfully and we had a fab time, the girls making it special as they always do.
Nice to hear you saw Mark and family over Christmas. Photos of his gorgeous little ones come up on Facebook sometimes. Eddie is the spitting image of Mark and Mike at the same age, even the golden curls! I can’t imagine what Christmas in LA is like. Turkey burgers on the beach maybe?! I’ll ask Mike some time. Love to all Reynauds, Ceri x
Lisa
February 1, 2015 @ 12:11 pm
Hi Ceri, My friend Mark S tweeted about your blog, and I had to leave you a note, your writing has a really honest and engaging tone. And I remember what Christmas in hospital was like (backstory: ulcerative colitis, total colectomy). I wish you all the best in the world with your New Year Resolutions, and look forward to reading more, best Lisa
A Reluctant Contortionist
February 2, 2015 @ 8:02 pm
Hi Lisa,
Thank you for your kind comment. I’ve met a number of people with ulcerative colitis during my hospital stays. It’s a very difficult condition. I really hope your surgery was successful.
I was in school with Mark S and also a play once, ‘Forty Years On’ by Alan Bennett. Mark was brilliant, the play …less so!
Thanks for following the blog. Best wishes, Ceri.
Jennifer Bowles Line
February 25, 2015 @ 11:16 am
Haha – made me laugh!
A Reluctant Contortionist
February 25, 2015 @ 12:57 pm
Thank you! – I’m trying hard with my resolutions, especially the having more fun one 🙂
Allie
September 24, 2017 @ 3:38 pm
Way to be positive. 🙂
A Reluctant Contortionist
September 25, 2017 @ 1:13 pm
Thank you ?. I think it helps…