Welcome to ‘A Reluctant Contortionist’, a blog about being too bendy.
So why am I starting a blog? For a long time now I’ve wanted to do something to help the cause of Ehlers Danlos Syndrome (EDS). But what exactly? I’m not smart enough to find a cure. I have EDS so I can’t run a marathon or jump out of a plane. I can bend my joints into endless weird positions, but who would sponsor me to do that?
So what’s left? Well along with anything Star Wars, one of many nerdy hobbies of mine is searching for the latest EDS research online. A while ago I was telling a friend about a medical paper I’d found, I suspect I was boring him a little, and he suggested I start my own website (so it’s all his fault if this site bombs). There’s a few reasons why I liked the idea…
My Story. – Finding out what’s wrong with me and how to manage it, was a long, painful and bewildering process, with numerous costly mistakes made along the way. I can’t change the past, but by sharing my story it might help someone else get diagnosed faster, or avoid some of the pitfalls I limped blindly into.
Lack of awareness. – Apart from doctors and avid viewers of Coronation Street, it’s very rare to meet anyone who has heard of EDS. If someone is brave enough to ask what’s wrong with me, when I tell them they just look blank. If I try to explain the condition they look blank and confused and probably regret asking. It’s not that I’m after gushing sympathy or a medal, but it means on top of living with a disabling condition you have to frequently explain the symptoms to people, and deal with a lack of understanding, sometimes scepticism, frequent tactless comments, and the odd inquisition (on second thought, a medal would be nice). Lack of awareness is also one of the reasons EDS is an under-diagnosed condition.
There’s no cure for EDS. – The condition was first observed by Hippocrates in 400BC. But in the 2414 years that have passed since doctors haven’t found a single treatment that improves it. There are numerous options that help manage the symptoms of it: pain killers, physiotherapy, splints, compression bandages, more pain killers. But nothing that improves the tissue weakness itself.
One of the reasons there’s no treatment for EDS is the lack of a ‘market’. Drug companies aren’t the cuddly altruistic creatures they’d like you to think they are, they only research treatments for common conditions where there’s lots of profit to be made. This is frustrating as it puts a price on the quality of people’s lives. But also because EDS is an under diagnosed condition, so the actual size of the charmlessly named ‘market’ isn’t even known.
However… if awareness levels could increase, diagnosis levels might increase, and we all made a lot of noise about what a large and grateful ‘market’ we are, then who knows? – You’re probably thinking that’s a very optimistic, possibly delusional, pipe dream and you’re probably right. But I’ve had two decades to think about it and it’s the best plan I’ve come up with. So I guess this blog is my contribution to raising awareness and making some noise. You could help by mailing it to a few friends please.
So what am I going to blog about? Well, I’m not qualified to give medical advice, I’ve never been big on sharing my feelings and my life isn’t very eventful. But I do have 20 years experience of living with EDS, so I must have a few useful tips to pass on. I’ll also gladly share any exciting EDS research I come across. Plus maybe, if it’s not too dull, the odd snippet from my own struggle with EDS.
I’m going to try running this site for a year, then decide if I’ve managed to achieve anything. If no one in the world is interested I’ll just turn this into a Star Wars fan site. The internet always needs more of them.
Thanks for reading, Ceri – ‘A Reluctant Contortionist’.
Reluctant Contortionist
November 22, 2014 @
1:27 pm
Thanks Noogs. It’s been quite fun making the site, glad you like it. Also thank you for the photos the other day. Dani is gorgeous, can’t wait to meet her. xxx
Reluctant Contortionist
November 22, 2014 @
4:43 pm
Thank you both. The next update will come once all the bugs are fixed, and I’ve got the site to show up in Google, and I’ve added some more photos, and …well it might be a while. Hope to see you all soon. Love Ceri xxx
Reluctant Contortionist
November 22, 2014 @
4:50 pm
Ha! Thank you Paul. No, I just lazed round for 19.5 years, then spent 6 months on this blog, and it’s still not fully working. Nearly there hopefully. – Thanks for your advice on it, have a big kiss X
Reluctant Contortionist
November 22, 2014 @
4:23 pm
Hi Eira,
Really good to hear from you, and thank you for your lovely comment. Two bugs found so far and both fixed already, so good progress. Hopefully the site will be live to anyone next week, I’ll let you know. I hope all is good with you. Love Cousin Ceri xxx
What a great site and what a load of work has gone into it! I’m sure it will help other people who are having to cope with the same problems. Thanks for all your efforts and the very best of luck.
Reluctant Contortionist
November 23, 2014 @
8:40 am
Thank you Mary. Also thank you for all your help along the way, and (comma then and!) particularly the grammar checks, its (no apostrophe!) appreciated. X
Brilliant Ceri! Well done for writing so objectively and constructively despite all the challenges you have faced over the years. I will try to use your blog appropriately with the connections I continue to have through my role on the board at Disability Sheffield.
Try to avoid any suggestion from your father that the site might include a few hundred of his songs. And I admire your sensitivity in resisting the temptation to attribute some of your difficulties to mixed Welsh and Cornish ancestry.
A section that demonstrates your well developed sense of humour might be a future feature? perhaps
A Reluctant Contortionist
November 26, 2014 @
11:11 am
Hi John,
You probably won’t see my father’s songs here, but one of yours perhaps? One of my earliest memories of you is a perfect rendition of ‘The Incredible Hulk’ theme tune on the piano. A lovely childhood memory and an oddly nice tune despite its source.
As for my ancestry – It’s not to blame for my health issues, but it is for a very silly first name, regular clotted cream cravings, and my painful teenage Catherine Zeta-Jones crush. More accusations on this theme may be common here.
Thanks for your kind comments on my blog. I’ll be updating it regularly so please check in now and then. Nice to hear you’re working with Disability Sheffield, let me know if I can help somehow.
I hope you’re well these days. Say hello to Mair and Martin from me please.
Ceri.
To test if links work here, and for those who don’t remember it, ‘The Incredible Hulk’ theme tune: http://youtu.be/rccD1EWenio
Ceri
(I am long term university friend of your Dad and incidentally bassist in Regeneration. David and I talk about all our kids on the way to rehearsals and we touch on you often. He’s very proud of you)
Thank you for raising my awareness.of EDS. I will pass it on and help to plant an acorn.
Pete
A Reluctant Contortionist
November 25, 2014 @
11:41 am
Hi Pete,
I think we’ve met a couple of times, and I’ve heard your funky bass lines many many times. Thanks for your comment and for passing the link on. A lot can grow from acorns!
Ceri.
Ceri, I am a friend of your dad having met him through my role in sport and scuba diving! I have thoroughly enjoyed reading this blog , you do write so eloquently . Thank you for sharing your experience. Both my late mother and father were physiotherapists and my father is still running a private practice at the age of 84! He does know of EDS and he also has contacts in the field of physiotherapy and so he will share this with his contacts and let’s see if we can all spread the word further afield to at least educate people to the condition.
Looking forward to your next post Ceri, dont wait too long
With very best wishes
Mary
A Reluctant Contortionist
November 26, 2014 @
8:11 pm
Hi Mary,
Thanks for your comment. I’ve had a huge amount of help from physiotherapists down the years. For EDS they can often give more help than doctors. They’re also best placed to spot the problem of hypermobility. So it’s ideal to spread the word in that field, thank you very much.
I have a couple of friends who scuba dive, I’ll mention the BSAC when I next see them.
Regards, Ceri.
Hi Ceri, wow! So beautifully written and so nice to hear about you from you. You are right; so few people know of EDS. I will certainly spread the word especially to my medical friends in South Africa
Keep it up!
Kind regards
Bev and Danie
A Reluctant Contortionist
November 27, 2014 @
12:23 pm
Hi Bev and Danie,
Lovely to hear from you, been a long while. Yes it’s good to cut out the middle man, particularly one that’s so { redacted due to bribe }, lovely and charming though he is too.
Thanks for your comment and for spreading the word. I’ve had another comment from SA already.
Best wishes, Ceri.
Hi Ceri, thank you for sharing. I, personally, did not know about EDS. Looking forward to learning more about this. It is so important to make people aware of these little-known conditions. Be strong and never give up.
A Reluctant Contortionist
November 26, 2014 @
9:09 pm
Hi Lyn,
Thanks for your message. It’s great to know people are reading my blog and it’s helping raise awareness. Come back again soon and perhaps mention the blog to a friend?
Regards, Ceri.
Hi Ceri
I love your writing style…. fresh, easy and delightful to read. You have a great sense of humour!
I look forward to reading more !
Cheers!
Dee
South Africa
A Reluctant Contortionist
November 26, 2014 @
8:54 pm
Hi Dee,
Thank you. I enjoyed writing the blog. It’s great people are enjoying reading it and that it’s reached people in South Africa already! I’ll be adding new posts regularly, so come back again soon.
Cheers, Ceri.
Hi Ceri
Have just read “My Story” so far – clearly and objectively put. From my experience of other people with chronic conditions this is not always the case. Well done. I have yet to read “What is EDS?” and “What is POTS?”. I expect, when I have done so, your mother will be relieved not to have to KEEP explaining the conditions to me. I am what is known as a slow learner.
Ann Baldwin
A Reluctant Contortionist
November 28, 2014 @
9:10 pm
Hi Ann,
It’s not that easy being objective about something that’s affected my life so much. But it reads better that way and I have mellowed about the early mistakes over time. Sorry if my Mum talks about EDS a lot. Try to change the subject to her granddaughters, a much more fun topic than me.
Ceri.
A Reluctant Contortionist
November 28, 2014 @
9:11 pm
Hi again,
I love the cartoons too, but they’re not my work. They’re by the very talented Hannah Ensor, from two books she has available. They’ll be more about Hannah here another day.
Thanks for your messages, Ceri.
hi ceri just got on the site what an interesting read it is too. I will look forward to the progress of your blog, and I hope you are trying to keep as well as possible speak or see you soon
love phil
A Reluctant Contortionist
December 4, 2014 @
10:03 am
Hi Phil. Thanks for reading my blog. – I’m trying not to blame my ancestry for my problems, but you should check in now and then in case any jibes go in the direction of Wales.
I hope you have a great Xmas. There’ll be some beers and a Terry’s Chocolate Orange under my tree for you if you visit.
Love Ceri.
Hi Ceri, Well done on the blog, it is great that you are directing your energies so positively. I had not heard about EDS before. A colleague shared the link to your blog on our work site. I think this will do well! Please think about some sort of Facebook page as well as so many people communicate and share that way too. Good luck in your efforts 🙂
Maria
A Reluctant Contortionist
January 11, 2015 @
2:09 pm
Hi Maria,
Thank you for your message. Sorry to take such a long time to reply. Unfortunately I wasn’t well over Christmas and had to go into hospital. I just wrote a blog post about it, hospitals aren’t very Christmassy!
A Facebook page is a good idea, thank you. I’ll add it to the list of ideas for the blog I’d like to do, if I have time. Watch this space I guess.
I hope you had a happy and healthy Christmas, Ceri.
Hi Ces – time for another blog please! You might entertain readers with yr latest experiences with seasonal A & E – not at all what Santa had planned. Mind you, no mince pies, what did you expect??
D
A Reluctant Contortionist
January 7, 2015 @
10:19 pm
Hello David,
Thank you for your suggestion, yes an update is on the way. Sorry for the lack of activity on my blog recently, my excuse is pretty good though.
As for mince pies, there were plenty at my party thank you. If you weren’t quick enough to get one, perhaps you had too many last year? 🙂
Rhiannon
November 22, 2014 @ 12:18 pm
Thanks for the link to your blog. Very interesting read. I’m looking forward to reading the next one. Lots of love, noogs xxx
Reluctant Contortionist
November 22, 2014 @ 1:27 pm
Thanks Noogs. It’s been quite fun making the site, glad you like it. Also thank you for the photos the other day. Dani is gorgeous, can’t wait to meet her. xxx
Mary
November 22, 2014 @ 1:16 pm
Hi Ceri, very well written, very proud of you. Looking forward to the next update. Love you lots, Mary and Goffy xxx
Reluctant Contortionist
November 22, 2014 @ 4:43 pm
Thank you both. The next update will come once all the bugs are fixed, and I’ve got the site to show up in Google, and I’ve added some more photos, and …well it might be a while. Hope to see you all soon. Love Ceri xxx
Paul
November 22, 2014 @ 1:55 pm
Well done Ceri on producing this. I thought you had just been lazing around for 20 years. 🙂
Reluctant Contortionist
November 22, 2014 @ 4:50 pm
Ha! Thank you Paul. No, I just lazed round for 19.5 years, then spent 6 months on this blog, and it’s still not fully working. Nearly there hopefully. – Thanks for your advice on it, have a big kiss X
Eira Jenkins
November 22, 2014 @ 2:02 pm
Such a good idea Ceri! This is a good way of raising awareness of EDS and for you to share your experiences of the last 20ish years.
You’ve handled the situation with great dignity & patience, we are all very proud of you.
Please let me know when the web-site is fully live, so that I can forward your link to friends.
Take care,
Cousin Eira
Xxxxxxxxxx
Reluctant Contortionist
November 22, 2014 @ 4:23 pm
Hi Eira,
Really good to hear from you, and thank you for your lovely comment. Two bugs found so far and both fixed already, so good progress. Hopefully the site will be live to anyone next week, I’ll let you know. I hope all is good with you. Love Cousin Ceri xxx
Mary
November 22, 2014 @ 8:29 pm
What a great site and what a load of work has gone into it! I’m sure it will help other people who are having to cope with the same problems. Thanks for all your efforts and the very best of luck.
Reluctant Contortionist
November 23, 2014 @ 8:40 am
Thank you Mary. Also thank you for all your help along the way, and (comma then and!) particularly the grammar checks, its (no apostrophe!) appreciated. X
John Fuller
November 24, 2014 @ 10:56 am
Brilliant Ceri! Well done for writing so objectively and constructively despite all the challenges you have faced over the years. I will try to use your blog appropriately with the connections I continue to have through my role on the board at Disability Sheffield.
Try to avoid any suggestion from your father that the site might include a few hundred of his songs. And I admire your sensitivity in resisting the temptation to attribute some of your difficulties to mixed Welsh and Cornish ancestry.
A section that demonstrates your well developed sense of humour might be a future feature? perhaps
very best wishes
John
A Reluctant Contortionist
November 26, 2014 @ 11:11 am
Hi John,
You probably won’t see my father’s songs here, but one of yours perhaps? One of my earliest memories of you is a perfect rendition of ‘The Incredible Hulk’ theme tune on the piano. A lovely childhood memory and an oddly nice tune despite its source.
As for my ancestry – It’s not to blame for my health issues, but it is for a very silly first name, regular clotted cream cravings, and my painful teenage Catherine Zeta-Jones crush. More accusations on this theme may be common here.
Thanks for your kind comments on my blog. I’ll be updating it regularly so please check in now and then. Nice to hear you’re working with Disability Sheffield, let me know if I can help somehow.
I hope you’re well these days. Say hello to Mair and Martin from me please.
Ceri.
To test if links work here, and for those who don’t remember it, ‘The Incredible Hulk’ theme tune: http://youtu.be/rccD1EWenio
Peter Haynes
November 24, 2014 @ 4:19 pm
Ceri
(I am long term university friend of your Dad and incidentally bassist in Regeneration. David and I talk about all our kids on the way to rehearsals and we touch on you often. He’s very proud of you)
Thank you for raising my awareness.of EDS. I will pass it on and help to plant an acorn.
Pete
A Reluctant Contortionist
November 25, 2014 @ 11:41 am
Hi Pete,
I think we’ve met a couple of times, and I’ve heard your funky bass lines many many times. Thanks for your comment and for passing the link on. A lot can grow from acorns!
Ceri.
Mary Tetley
November 25, 2014 @ 10:43 am
Ceri, I am a friend of your dad having met him through my role in sport and scuba diving! I have thoroughly enjoyed reading this blog , you do write so eloquently . Thank you for sharing your experience. Both my late mother and father were physiotherapists and my father is still running a private practice at the age of 84! He does know of EDS and he also has contacts in the field of physiotherapy and so he will share this with his contacts and let’s see if we can all spread the word further afield to at least educate people to the condition.
Looking forward to your next post Ceri, dont wait too long
With very best wishes
Mary
A Reluctant Contortionist
November 26, 2014 @ 8:11 pm
Hi Mary,
Thanks for your comment. I’ve had a huge amount of help from physiotherapists down the years. For EDS they can often give more help than doctors. They’re also best placed to spot the problem of hypermobility. So it’s ideal to spread the word in that field, thank you very much.
I have a couple of friends who scuba dive, I’ll mention the BSAC when I next see them.
Regards, Ceri.
Beverley Malan
November 25, 2014 @ 2:34 pm
Hi Ceri, wow! So beautifully written and so nice to hear about you from you. You are right; so few people know of EDS. I will certainly spread the word especially to my medical friends in South Africa
Keep it up!
Kind regards
Bev and Danie
A Reluctant Contortionist
November 27, 2014 @ 12:23 pm
Hi Bev and Danie,
Lovely to hear from you, been a long while. Yes it’s good to cut out the middle man, particularly one that’s so { redacted due to bribe }, lovely and charming though he is too.
Thanks for your comment and for spreading the word. I’ve had another comment from SA already.
Best wishes, Ceri.
Lyn Williams
November 25, 2014 @ 5:50 pm
Hi Ceri, thank you for sharing. I, personally, did not know about EDS. Looking forward to learning more about this. It is so important to make people aware of these little-known conditions. Be strong and never give up.
Best wishes
LYN WILLIAMS
A Reluctant Contortionist
November 26, 2014 @ 9:09 pm
Hi Lyn,
Thanks for your message. It’s great to know people are reading my blog and it’s helping raise awareness. Come back again soon and perhaps mention the blog to a friend?
Regards, Ceri.
Dee
November 26, 2014 @ 4:43 am
Hi Ceri
I love your writing style…. fresh, easy and delightful to read. You have a great sense of humour!
I look forward to reading more !
Cheers!
Dee
South Africa
A Reluctant Contortionist
November 26, 2014 @ 8:54 pm
Hi Dee,
Thank you. I enjoyed writing the blog. It’s great people are enjoying reading it and that it’s reached people in South Africa already! I’ll be adding new posts regularly, so come back again soon.
Cheers, Ceri.
Ann Baldwin
November 28, 2014 @ 4:53 pm
Hi Ceri
Have just read “My Story” so far – clearly and objectively put. From my experience of other people with chronic conditions this is not always the case. Well done. I have yet to read “What is EDS?” and “What is POTS?”. I expect, when I have done so, your mother will be relieved not to have to KEEP explaining the conditions to me. I am what is known as a slow learner.
Ann Baldwin
A Reluctant Contortionist
November 28, 2014 @ 9:10 pm
Hi Ann,
It’s not that easy being objective about something that’s affected my life so much. But it reads better that way and I have mellowed about the early mistakes over time. Sorry if my Mum talks about EDS a lot. Try to change the subject to her granddaughters, a much more fun topic than me.
Ceri.
Ann Baldwin
November 28, 2014 @ 5:45 pm
Hi Ceri, again
Forgot to say. Loved the cartoons.
Ann
A Reluctant Contortionist
November 28, 2014 @ 9:11 pm
Hi again,
I love the cartoons too, but they’re not my work. They’re by the very talented Hannah Ensor, from two books she has available. They’ll be more about Hannah here another day.
Thanks for your messages, Ceri.
phil jenkins
December 2, 2014 @ 2:40 pm
hi ceri just got on the site what an interesting read it is too. I will look forward to the progress of your blog, and I hope you are trying to keep as well as possible speak or see you soon
love phil
A Reluctant Contortionist
December 4, 2014 @ 10:03 am
Hi Phil. Thanks for reading my blog. – I’m trying not to blame my ancestry for my problems, but you should check in now and then in case any jibes go in the direction of Wales.
I hope you have a great Xmas. There’ll be some beers and a Terry’s Chocolate Orange under my tree for you if you visit.
Love Ceri.
Maria P
December 15, 2014 @ 11:56 am
Hi Ceri, Well done on the blog, it is great that you are directing your energies so positively. I had not heard about EDS before. A colleague shared the link to your blog on our work site. I think this will do well! Please think about some sort of Facebook page as well as so many people communicate and share that way too. Good luck in your efforts 🙂
Maria
A Reluctant Contortionist
January 11, 2015 @ 2:09 pm
Hi Maria,
Thank you for your message. Sorry to take such a long time to reply. Unfortunately I wasn’t well over Christmas and had to go into hospital. I just wrote a blog post about it, hospitals aren’t very Christmassy!
A Facebook page is a good idea, thank you. I’ll add it to the list of ideas for the blog I’d like to do, if I have time. Watch this space I guess.
I hope you had a happy and healthy Christmas, Ceri.
David
December 31, 2014 @ 9:14 am
Hi Ces – time for another blog please! You might entertain readers with yr latest experiences with seasonal A & E – not at all what Santa had planned. Mind you, no mince pies, what did you expect??
D
A Reluctant Contortionist
January 7, 2015 @ 10:19 pm
Hello David,
Thank you for your suggestion, yes an update is on the way. Sorry for the lack of activity on my blog recently, my excuse is pretty good though.
As for mince pies, there were plenty at my party thank you. If you weren’t quick enough to get one, perhaps you had too many last year? 🙂